On consistency

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    suzanne
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    I found this particularly thought provoking, especially the last sentence. From the Farnam Street newsletter feature, Tiny Thought.

    This is absolutely applicable to life in general, no matter what the focus. And I think an important message for trainers — and for their clients.

    “Tiny Thought The longer the time frame for results, the less you need intensity and the more you need consistency. Consistency isn’t simply willpower, which comes and goes. Consistency is doing it when you don’t feel like doing it. If you want advantageous divergence, you have to do the things that matter on your best day and your worst day.”

    Not such a tiny thought if you really give this some thought.

    In mulling this over, I realize that in some ways I am deeply consistent, with only occasional lapses of carelessness or inconsistency. But because I am usually so consistent, it gets on my radar when I fail to be as consistent as I intend to be. Which leads me to question myself, “Why did I do that [or not do that that]?” Finding the answer helps me reset my course, be alert for future moments so that I can choose differently, and forgive myself for being human.

    But right now, I’m trying — and mostly failing so far — to establish new habits that will be important for me going forward trying to balance work and life. It’s so easy to get enthusiastic and intense about the changes I wish to make, and so hard to be consistent about doing the new things *no matter what* every day. So this Tiny Thought came at a great time to help me remember that consistency is doing it when you don’t feel like doing it.

    Making changes sounds easy, but in reality, we all move through a series of stages:
    – Pre-contemplation (Not yet acknowledging that there is a problem behavior that needs to be changed)
    – Contemplation (Acknowledging that there is a problem but not yet ready, sure of wanting, or lacks confidence to make a change)
    – Preparation/Determination (Getting ready to change)
    – Action/Willpower (Changing behavior)
    – Maintenance (Maintaining the behavior change)

    Right now, I’m in the Preparation stage, with a bit of Action already in progress. So this reminder about consistency needs to be put on the refrigerator and bathroom mirror so I can gently remind myself it’s a journey, not a step off a cliff, and that at times I may get lost. But aiming for consistency on my best days and my worst days will get me where I want to be.

    How about you? Where or when or how do you struggle with being consistent?

    Learn more about stages of change here: https://medicine.llu.edu/academics/resources/stages-change-model

    #12348
    Meesh Masters
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    Morning Suzanne,
    Oooh I love this! It’s definitely something for life in general but also so much value in working this into training support plans for clients for sure. I especially resonate with the bit about being deeply consistent and how easily it gets flagged up when that consistency fails, I have that experience too being someone who lives a very consistent life – it’s certainly something that helps me relate to some of the dogs I work with who struggle with change, even in small ways and how using small approximations of change whenever possible can support them through that resilience conditioning that will help things affect them less intensely.

    I also love the series of stages! That’s really great to remember and could certainly help both me and my clients be kinder to ourselves when we are trying to change or develop new habits and skills. I will definitely look to add this information into my ‘being your dogs best human’ course area in my group.

    Thank you for sharing! 🙂

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